How Women Use Shit Tests

***If you have not heard of the Shit Test (AKA 'Congruence Test') it means when women test their partners by saying something irrelevant or antagonistic, to see how a man handles adversity, or 'see what you're made of'. Example: "Are you gay?" or "Do I look fat in this dress?" If the man becomes embarrassed or defense, he fails the test.

There is no scientific definition for "shit test", but it's generally defined as follows: the test a woman gives a man in the early stages of dating, usually through curious and sly questions or comments.

(Check out this page to know more about women's tests):

Here are some example and their categories (they vary in shittiness):
A) Some deal with your courtship rituals, like "I can't talk with a man until he buys me a drink"
B) Some deal with her sex appeal, like "that barwoman is so hot? Don't you think?"
C) Some deal with your dating habits, like "so you're quite the player, aren't you?"
D) Some deal with your intellectual prowess, like she'll tell a joke (it could be unintelligble) and say, "You're a little slow, aren't you?"

Women do this, sometimes consciously, sometimes not. If we do it-embrace it. It means we're interested. It means we're stimulated-or want to be. It means we're setting up sexual tension. It means we want to dance, rather than just sit around bored, twittling our thumbs, waiting for some cuter guy to come along. But it also means we're setting up a protective layer-because you might just be the one to make us happy, and hence hurt us.

The shit test is often interpreted as a test a woman gives to see if he is worthy of her; it's her way of weeding out the pussies from the men. She's so great and perfect, she has the pick of the litter, so she has the luxury of choosing the smartest, the best, fittest. That's only half the story. Here's the other (female) half: the shit test doesn't only test your confidence, it is designed to raise hers!

Even the smart and beautiful woman has many insecurities. (Is he only after my body? Will he still like me without make-up and when I have morning breath? Will he continue to pursue me when I start needing or pursuing him?). She knows she's the prettiest girl at the party, but she also knows she's a little girl seeking love. So she sets up small pitfalls, knowing that some ditches are in store when you get past the first drink and actually get to know each other.

The questions/comments are designed to (referring to the earlier examples, respectively):
A) Get what is due her as a desirable lady being courted by a man
B) Confirm your attraction to her above others
C) Differentiate you from the jerks
D) Know that you'll seek to understand her and be a better man for her

But the desirable woman doesn't want to broadcast her insecurities, so she hides them through wit and challenge. The man must show he's not fazed by or even cognizant  of her insecurities, so he should respond with wit and challenge in kind, while also boosting her up. Some PUA's advise the man to ignore the shit test (by changing the subject)-and that's good advice if you only want to get into her pants. But if you actually want to date her, you should step up and use the shit test as an opportunity to prove that you can handle her-when she's up on that pedestal as a goddess, and when she's a plain woman taking a poop on a different kind of pedestal.

Here are some examples of answers to the sample questions above. (If the chemistry's right, your intuition should guide you.)

A) I was about to get you a drink, but I didn't want you to think I wanted to get you drunk
B) She's okay (then look at her like with desire), but you're the hottest girl here (watch her blush)
C) Of course I'm a player, just looking for the right woman to reform me (wink)
D) What can I say, I'm no match for your wit, but I can drive a pretty fast Ferrari, can you?

Ultimately, the shit test is not only testing yours, but hers. And when the shit hits the fan, she wants to know that you can laugh about it together. Because, ultimately, she's human too

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Understanding A Woman's Body Language & Interest Signals


There I've said it.

I am sure that my entire gender will not be pleased to know I have made this statement.  But as a woman I know first hand that this is true.

We are crazy.

The reason we are crazy is because we are not like men.

This is something we are all aware of but for some reason we find it hard to remember this simple fact.

Men think, communicate and function one way and women another way.

Men are direct, to the point and have no secret meaning behind their words and actions.

This is how they function in every aspect of their lives.

Men speak with their words.

Women on the other hand speak with their bodies.

Women are testers, analyzers and observers, which can be misunderstood, by men, as manipulating or just plain crazy.

This type of communication can be very confusing for men.

I am going to break it down for you so that the next time you encounter "female communication" you can understand every word her body is saying.


Don't ever trust the WORDS a woman says.

Here is a real life example that you are probably very familiar with.  This will help you to better understand the above statement.

I am sure you have had this happen many, many, times.

You are at a bar or out socially

You approach a girl

Talk with her for 10 minutes

Have a great conversation

Ask for her number

She gives it to you

You walk away pumped up about your successful pick up

You call her two days later

No response

Call again

No response

You think, what the hell I thought she was totally into me.


Your assumption was made and based on the words a woman was saying not what she was doing.

Big mistake.

You probably thought "she is talking with me, responding to my questions, shows interest and gave me her phone number.  Of course she wants me. "


Remember women do not communicate the same way as you.  They speak with their bodies not their mouth.

To them words are simply words.  The real truth comes from inside.

The conversation to pay attention to is the one they are speaking with their body.

A woman's body language can tell you exactly what she wants, who she wants and how she wants it done.

Why you ask?  Why do women not say what they MEAN?

Often it's just to be nice.  Do you really want her to look at you and say, "Oh my God you are so annoying so please just go away!"

This is why women will remain in conversations with men even when there is no interest.

They are simply being ladylike and polite.

They will however give subtle signals with their bodies to show when they are not interested.

Right now you are probably scanning back through numerous approaches trying to remember if the woman's body was telling you to back off.

This information could have saved you lots of energy and wasted time.

Here is a little insight into what women say about men when they are not around.

The complaint that I constantly hear from women is that men just don't get it.

Many of them have said something along the lines of "I was giving him perfectly clear signals that I was not interested but he just wouldn't go away. I shut him up by giving him my phone number. Now, I'm going to have screen my calls for the next month. What an

Next time you go out and interact with a woman, pay attention to how her body is talking to you.

Is she facing you?

Is she looking you in the eye?

Is she responding to you with one word answers?

Is she elbowing her friend to try and get you interrupted?

Let me give you another example of a real life situation.  I think this one will make my point clear.

On the home page of The Wing Girl Method I describe something called the "HELP ME EYES".

The help me eyes are the international signal sent out by a woman to other females when they are trapped in a situation.  Typically this situation occurs when a woman feels stuck in a conversation with a man.

When a woman gets stuck in a conversation with a man she does not want to be talking to, she will send out a signal to all females in her vicinity.

This signal is a simple, slight movement of her eyes. Moments after the signal is sent out, another female, who may or may not even know the woman, will swoop in to her rescue and relieve her.

As a man, you most likely did not see any of this happen. You thought you were in conversation with a woman that was very into you. You probably thought you were one step away from closing the deal when in fact there was never a deal to close.

Then suddenly this other female swoops in claiming there is a situation or emergency that needs to be tended to RIGHT NOW.

When a situation like this happens, you have probably always blamed "the friend" for ruining your chances.

Truth is that YOUR woman had sent out her signals so that she could be rescued FROM YOU.


When a woman is into you, really into you, it will not matter if her friends hair is on fire, she will not break away from conversation.  If she does break away she will make sure that she will always be able to find you again.

One way for you to battle situations like this is to learn to read a woman's body language.

Me and my Wing Girls have taught hundreds of men how to do this. Once you learn the subtle cues it is easy to determine what exactly a woman wants at all times.

Is she looking you in the eye?

Has she touched you?  Not a friendly over the top touch but a soft subtle touch?

Is she really having a conversation or is it just you blabbing away?

In your own time I want you to take notice of how women position themselves around you.

Make note of their body movements and gestures.

Are they being polite or are they turned on.

Once you are able to take notice of what a woman is really saying you can start to use this information to your advantage.

I am going to teach you exactly how to do this in a few weeks when you are ready.

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11 Ways To Screw Up Your First Date

The first date is one of the most important, for obvious reasons. The better you do on the first date the more likely there will be a second and third to follow.

I don't expect y'all are sitting around wondering how to screw up a first date, and yet I have been on quite a few first dates, and many of them were screwed up. Sure, it's funny the next day when I'm telling my friends, but while the sordid episode is unfolding,
it doesn't seem funny at all. So, in the interest of reducing future dismal dates, I've made a list of things not to do on your next first date. Please, read it carefully, and DO NOT...

1. Arrive in a car full of junk

This should be a no-brainer, and yet it happens again and again. I remember a date whose steering wheel was spattered with what looked like dry white paint. The guy explained that it was because every time he drank milk, he sneezed. Ewwwwww!!!!

2. Appear too nervous

It's all right to be considerate on a first date; it's recommended. But don't bend over backwards, don't try so hard you end up sweating, and don't forget that you are the host and your date will be happy to follow your lead. No need to be insecure--she agreed to go out with you, right?

3. Choose a bad restaurant or venue

Oh boy. Make sure the place you take your date isn't sleazy, noisy, or miles away in heavy traffic. Keep it simple. Most women of any age would be happy at a small Italian place for a first date. The important thing is that you are able to converse without too much distraction. Save your favorite punk bar for a later time, when you know each other better.

4. Appear fussy while interacting with servers

Just order the grilled salmon and move on! Don't interview the server on the provenance of the arugula. Don't send anything back unless it has a rat in it, and a live one at that.

5. Name drop or brag about accomplishments

If a woman likes you, she likes you for who you are. You don't need to make flimsy connections between yourself and Bruce Willis's ex-nutritionist to get a date's attention. Talk instead about what you enjoy doing, what you've done recently that's slightly out of
the ordinary (river rafting, wine country tours, etc.).

6. Forget to ask questions

Don't forget that your date is a person too. Yes, even though she is a female, she has a brain very much like yours and a heart and soul, too. She'd like a chance to tell you about herself. If she likes you, she'll be talking partly to make a connection, so be sure to respond when she hits a nerve in a good way.

7. Speak ill of past dates, girlfriends, or wives

It doesn't matter how astoundingly unpleasant your ex was, your current date doesn't want to know about it. She'll instantly put herself in your ex's shoes and feel some female solidarity. So, dissing your ex is dissing all women is dissing your date. Got it?

8. Ogle other women or watch TV

You'd think this would go without saying, but it doesn't. Don't ogle. I mean, if Angelina Jolie walks by, you aren't expected to ignore her. But your expression when you return your gaze to your date should be of bemusement or confusion, not unfettered lust! And if your team is playing on the TV at the pub, please do not watch it. Please. (Note that this suggestion can be ignored if your date is a fan. In that case, you've hit the jackpot. Change seats, order a pitcher, and enjoy the game!)

9. Ask her if she wants to have children
You might be conditioned to believe that all women want to marry--that they are desperate, in fact. But it ain't so. So if you think you can score faster by talking serious relationship on the first date, think again. If you really must know whether she wants
to have children one day, I can only suggest that you bring it up early in a joking manner, adding "I always say that on the first date; I find it breaks the tension," or something.

10. Agree to split the tab

If you asked her out, you pay. Even if you didn't ask her out you pay. Don't let her trick you either by offering to pay her share.  This is where woman's lib does not come into a play. PAY!

11. Not try for a kiss goodnight, or more...

Yes, you should try for a kiss. There are many ways to signal a desire to give a peck. You can ask, for example. "May I kiss you good night?" might work. If she says "no," just smile and thank her for a great evening. If she says "yes," take it moment by moment. Failure to at least try for something is going to make you look like a wimp, or worse, make her think you don't like her. So risk rejection and make a little move. She'll appreciate it if she's into you, and if she isn't, well, you'll find out fast!

To review, this was not a "how to" was a list of eleven ways to wreck a first date. Review it carefully before your next one. Above all, remember that women are people too. But things that please your manly friends (noisy bars, bodily noises, wisecracks about other women) don't work on us. I hope you can put these eleven rules in play and have a good first date...or eleven!

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Woman Reveals What Turns Other Women On!

Do you want to learn how to attract women just like me? *wink*

I am going to tell you exactly the qualities and characteristics I look for in a man.

I have to say my opinion is very consistent with the 100 women I surveyed in my 3 step system that shows you how to eliminate that "Nice Guy" and needy guy that repels women and replace him with the "Good Guy" that women want.

Yes that's right. As I have told you before, women want a Good Guy not a bad boy, or a wimp but a good guy with a backbone.

Before I get into exactly the type of man I am attracted to I wanted to tell you about the last time that I was out at a bar and got picked up by a guy.

I went out to a bar in Los Angeles for a girls night with my hot, amazing single girlfriends Nina, Orit, Jette and Jessica.

When we first got there we scoured the bar to see if there were any potential men. We spotted a great group of guys and plopped ourselves down next to them, making sure they could see us.

As we sat down they looked over at us, smiled and then literally huddled together and looked back at us.

Then one guy turned to our table and said "what are you ladies drinking? my friends and I want to buy you a drink."  As women we gladly accepted the free drinks.  Hey, if you guys want to offer, we will always take and give you 5 minutes of our time to see if we like you.

After the drinks came, two of the guys came over to our table and started gabbing on and on about a huge financial deal they had just closed.  They then went on and talked about their new car they just purchased and trust me they did not forget to mention the price.

I was getting totally turned off these guys and I could tell that my girlfriends were feeling the same way.  We quickly guzzled our drinks and excused ourselves.

We could not believe that these attractive, well dressed men, who were obviously successful were that insecure.  Why did they feel the need to babble on about "what they had" rather than trying to talk with us.

So we continued our night and were having a blast with each other.

About 2 hours into our night I was getting drinks from the bar and a man decided to approach me.

He was about 5"7, wore glasses and could have definitely used a lesson on wardrobe.

He strolled over with an energy that I can only explain as magnetic.

He simply came up to me and said "Hi my name is xxx" and held out his hand.  I introduced myself.

X - "You are not from here are you?"

Me - " No I am not.  How can you tell?"

X - "Because you are the only girl in the bar smiling and looking people straight in the eye. Girls like that don't exist around here. Where are you from?"

Me - "Toronto in Canada"

X - "I think I've heard of it before (with a smug smile) I'm one of those lucky Amercian's who grew up with a map in the house.  Actually I just visited Toronto. Great city.  A much cleaner version of New York. What made you want to move here?"

The conversation went on for quite some time and that excited feeling in my stomach kept increasing throughout the conversation.

When I like a guy I am talking to I get nervous, I trip over my words and ramble on and on.  My eye contact is always locked on him and I do not notice anyone else around me. I was totally into this guy.

The reason that I was attracted to this guy was because he was interesting, confident and obviously a man who went after what he wanted.  He looked me straight in the eye and went after me without a doubt in his mind that he would be rejected.

He did not approach me with some cheesy line, or canned material, he approached me directly without fear and I could sense that.

He poked fun at me, did not over compliment or fawn all over me.

He was not dominating the conversation if anything I was doing most of the talking.

This in turn intimidated me and made me nervous.  I was the one who was afraid of possible rejection.

I did not feel at any time that I had full control of the situation. I remember constantly thinking does this guy like me, he must? Am I sounding smart enough? Is there lipstick on my teeth? My mouth hurts from smiling.  The internal thoughts go on and on.

In a short period of time he was able to make me feel comfortable, excited and special.

I could tell from our conversation that xxx was a good man and was desired by others.

He was self assured, calm cool and collected.

This is the type of man that I am attracted to.  The type of man I want to date and be in a relationship with.  A man I want to be with.

As long as you are direct, confident and clear in your wants, then women will be attracted to you.

The more comfortable you are in your skin the more attractive you are to women.

I do have to point out that I have never been attracted to players.

I have always been able to see right through their attempts.  Guys who are not straight with me are not attractive to me.

I must admit the approaches used by "player" types are fun, engaging and ego boosting BUT they are also obvious and exhausting.

At times this is all I have wanted from a night out.  Simple, fun banter and a quick make out session with a guy I was not going to think about the next day.

For long term this is not what I am looking for and not what I am attracted to.

Again, I am attracted to a self-assured man who knows himself and knows what he wants.  This attitude makes me feel special and lucky to have captured this mans attention and makes me want to see him again.

I can tell you that xxx was not always able to approach women with such confidence.

At a later time he revealed to me that he used to be very unsuccessful with women and was in fact afraid to approach.  He used to think he was too skinny, short and unattractive and it took time to grow into his looks.

After years of working on himself and finally finding true confidence and understanding himself he feels comfortable in his own skin and can approach anyone without fear.

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